"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others."
- Mahatma Gandhi
In January of 2018, while conducting my Discover Your Breakthrough You board breaking experience workshop here in Denver, I had the honor of meeting an American treasure, the Reverend Harold Middlebrook of Memphis, TN.
Rev. Middlebrook was a close friend of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., was one of the organizers of the March on Washington in 1963 where Dr. King delivered his I Have a Dream speech, organized voter registration in Selma, AL following the Voting Rights Act of 1965 and was with Dr. King when he was assassinated in Memphis in 1968.
And yes, at 75 years young, he broke his first board with me 😊!
However, Rev. Middlebrook’s board break almost never happened. When I initially invited him to join us in our breakthrough exercise, he declined saying he would leave it up to the ...
“In the study of truth, we talk often about the power of words. It is important to put into words only the verbal statements you want to see manifest in your life. For instance, the word ‘problem’. You say, ‘I have a problem.’ A much better word to employ when referring to some sort of challenge is ‘project’. Note what happens when you say, ‘I have this project.’ It makes all the difference in the world. The word project suggests a positive endeavor of development…..We tackle a project with vigor and imagination and with the conviction that it will be done.”
- Eric Butterworth
It had often been said that it is not what happens to us that matters, but the meaning we put to it.
Each of us went through our own unique set of challenges in 2021. For many of us, this was once again, the most challenging of years, with several of our most difficult trials continuing into the new...
“Hope is a start. But…hope needs action to win victories.”
- David J. Schwartz
A new year is upon us. I don’t know about you, but I am very happy that 2022 has arrived.
Recently, I was speaking to one of my coaching clients and shared with him that I am usually not overly excited about the beginning of a new year, but this year I certainly am.
It is an understatement to say that 2021 has been a difficult year for all of us, and I am personally filled with hope for what lies ahead for the upcoming year.
Hope can serve as an incredibly powerful force in getting us moving and breaking through the barriers we face in difficult times. It is also true that having a vision of hope for what we want to change, accomplish or experience in a new year ahead is not a new phenomenon.
In fact, each year, millions of people across the globe will create New Year’s resolutions to make tangible and impactful c...
“Most dying people regret not the things they did but the things they didn’t do.”
– Olga Rickards
If you are like me, the end of the year is a time of reflection of what was completed and experienced over the past 12 months and what is to be pursued and created in the upcoming year.
Many times, the pursuits we are inspired to embark upon in the new year get quickly put to rest by our fear of possible failure. This is especially true when we have the “evidence” of our past to rationalize our not taking risks. It is then easier to accept playing small, because although it is uncomfortable, it is safe.
However, what if we looked at things differently and asked ourselves another question,
This is a question asked frequently in the personal development and coaching world. I have asked many coaching clients (and myself) the same ques...
“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.”
- Joel A. Barker
I believe we are all born with a vision for what we want in our lives inside of us.
Just think back to when you were child and the numerous visions you had for what you wanted to be in when you “grew up”. Your imagination was boundless. I personally wanted to be a cartoonist, a doctor, an astronaut and a super-hero (Actually, when I was 5-years old, I WAS Batman).
I believe these visions exist inside of us so we have a means to share our innate gifts in the world. This is not just available for some of us, but for all of us. However, this begs the question: If this is true, why is it that so many of us allow those visions to merely become dreams that fade away because we never took action to make them a reality?
“No one can do it for you, but you can’t do it alone.”
– People’s House – Denver, Colorado’s Motto
The quote above has its origins in the drug and alcohol rehabilitation world.
As an adult child of an alcoholic, this statement has particular resonance for me. However, regardless of addiction has impacted our lives (and for most of us, it has), this adage holds just as true as a profound lesson in life.
We all encounter challenges in our lives. Although some of these trials may seem to come “out of the blue” to impact us, upon reflection we find most of the experiences which test us are of our own making; either through our own actions, thoughts and/or beliefs.
As much as we might want to have someone come and rescue us or find someone to blame during these times of challenge, these are aspects of our life that we need to take ownership of.
When we take accountability for each of our life’s situations ...
“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it’s a prevailing attitude.”
- General Colin Powell
Each martial arts class I teach ends with the same question posed to my students, “What’s our goal?”
With enthusiasm they respond in unison, “Black Belt Excellence, sir!”
In the martial arts, the concept of excellence is a reminder that our intention is to always do our best and to show up as the highest expression of ourselves in attitude, focus and action in everything we do. We know when we do this, more times than not, good things are bound to happen.
To be clear, I am talking about excellence, not perfection.
We are all human and despite our best efforts, things may not turn out as we intend. For many of us, the pressure we place upon ourselves to be perfect, not only leads to agitation an...
“People aren’t grateful because they are happy, they are happy because they are grateful.”
- Anonymous
This coming Thursday, we will be joining our family and friends around the table to celebrate one of my favorite holidays, Thanksgiving.
In addition to indulging in an array of traditional foods like turkey, mashed potatoes and pumpkin pie, we will also pause to reflect on the many blessings in our lives and share our appreciation for family, friends and the many wonderful things our life provides us.
While taking a day to remember and express our gratitude is important, I have often wondered how my life and the lives of others would be positively impacted if we made gratitude a daily practice, rather than one just reserved for an annual holiday.
A wise person once said, “Life does not happen to us, it happens through us.” Said another way, the filter by whic...
“The moment you take Responsibility for everything in your life, is the moment you can change Anything in your life.”
- Hal Elrod
As a speaker, I am honored each year to share my Mind of a Champion message with wide variety of audiences. Groups range from elementary school children all the way to corporate leaders.
While it does take a diverse set of skills and strategies to be able to communicate with, and hold the attention of audiences of such a wide range, I believe that we are “all big kids anyway” and as a result the essence of my message if basically the same, regardless of the audiences to whom I am speaking. That message is:
There is a champion inside of you and when access it and take full accountability for your life, you can achieve anything you put your heart and mind to.
While I enjoy speaking to all assemblies of people, the one group ...
“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you are committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”
- Art Turock
Several years ago, I was in a conference and heard a speaker make a cute little statement regarding the concept of commitment. It went like this...
“I had bacon and eggs this morning for the breakfast, the chicken was involved, but the pig was COMMITTED."
That statement, as trite as it might be, has always stuck with me. How committed am I really to the things I say I am committed to?
Or as super coach, Steve Chandler asks,
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